seems like you said you wanted the answer to one question, but you got more fussed up about another one.
maybe an answer from YOU, may give some clarity on the one you half-asked from your H....
Originally Posted By: Jeanette1120
... Him: I am not a WAS, I simply moved out. ... Him: I tried, but you wouldn't let me. I am not a WAS, I am paying the bills......so there. [...] So you see? I've been very wrong indeed. My x is neither a WAS or a MLC'er.....he just moved.
Damn....I shoulda asked that question YEARS ago. Things would have been alot simpler.
I get the impression that there are not 1, not 2, but 3 defintions of "walk away spouse" in play here:
1. "his" definition. I'm guessing it is along the lines of, "someone who walks away without warning, and totally abandons their marriage/spouse/family"
2. your definition. [I'm not quite clear what you view "WAS" as meaning, but I dont think it matches up to either of the other two
3. The DB definition: Someone who gives up on their marriage, and emotionally "walks away" from it, year(s) before they actually leave/divorce their spouse. They dont put any effort into improving the marriage, becuase they dont think it is worth saving, and basically just sit and wait for some kind of justification/prodding to finally leave for real. Or, they sit and wait for a specific event/age to occur before leaving.
[Note: this is not the same thing as someone who puts no effort into the marriage, just because they are a schmuck ]
It sounds like your H was being honest, in that he is not a "walk away spouse", by his definition of the term.
He may not even be a WAS in the DB definition of the term. (or in an MLC) He may "just" be a serial cheater.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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