Nomopo's Thread - Is something happening to me?

[Nomopo]

Hey Heim!

This makes sense, but I would say you can't truly detach (or fully detach) until you either conclude (1) it is not viable to save the M or (2) you (the LBS) don't want to save the M.

I don't think this is quite right. I'll try to explain. If you conclude either one or two, you're done. There is no hope.

I think that is why I added the concept of "fully detached." Fully detached is you really no longer have hope, don't care at all, don't think about it at all, including being open to it if W comes around. If you are fully detached, you wouldn't say that you still want to save the M.

Otherwise, I pretty much agree with everything else you said about detachment.

Let go of the fear. Accept that it may end in D -- really accept that, don't just nod in that fact's general direction. Begin to live your life for you -- and your kids. Really believe that you'll be OK, that you don't need your W. Let her go. She's already gone. None of that means she won't come back, but living in the fear that she'll leave is pointless, I realized. She's gone.

I believe I am already at this point. And if not quite, damn close.

Thanks Heim/BD! Have a great Labor Day Weekend!

Nomo