He didn't say he was adopting your opinion as his own. He was acknowledging that he understood how you felt, while still respecting his own opinion.
Actually I haven't really heard him tell me something I could classify as an 'opinion'. He's just given me rationalizations.
What you believe has not been challenged. He acknowledged it.
Corri, what are you suggesting exactly? That my H acknowledges that his behavior hurts me, that he contineus to do it and that I do what? Your last few posts have challenged nearly everything I say, but haven't offered any alternatives to my approach with this. It is certainly not your obligation to do so, but I am not saying at all that the way I'm currently handling this is the ONLY way to handle it. If you have suggestions, by all means, I am asking to hear them. That's what this thread is about. Given I feel the way I do, how can I best handle the situation?
Well, that's what YOU are making it about. I'm willing to bet the farm that he doesn't see it that way.
Since I can only manage myself, what's the point of dwelling on how he may or may not see things? Remember-I'm not asking permission to feel the way I do and like I said above, H has not really stated any kind of defendable position on the issue. He's only confirmed that he can see where I'm coming from and then tried to rationalize the behavior.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
