In real life, the few times my wife has asked about my job or what I do, I get to talk for about 2 minutes before she cuts me off saying that it is too boring and is putting her to sleep, which is fine with me. So in general she doesn't ask and I don't bring it up. (Last year was an exception, when my boss died in a car wreck and we got a new CFO. She wanted to hear about that).
You do realize you contradicted yourself, don't you? She is either interested, and gives you all kinds of feedback and suggestions you don't want to hear, or she is bored and doesn't want to hear it (paraphrasing what you said earlier about not bringing negativity home)... or, you are keeping negativity from blooming because us women can't handle it. Yet, when I asked you what you wanted in your M, one of the things you said you wanted was your wife to be interested in your job and what you do. Which is it?
Or is she just not doing it (showing interest and concern), the way YOU want it?
Nowhere, have you ever claimed or considered, in a way that I get, at least, that you have CONSIDERED THE POSSIBILITY, that YOU may be invalidating her, or that your behaviors and assumptions might be contributing... to this need of yours not being met. and if I do get close to exposing this... YOU will deflect again, and go on and give me yet another reason why you can't consider changing YOUR behavior.
