I've just spent the day reading all 11 pages of this thread. I'm looking for help in any way I can. I've been M for 12 yrs, together 13 y, 7yr D, 3 babies that died. H left me 1 year ago (aug 27th). I found out a couple months after that he was having a PA. He says it's over with OW, but I'm not so sure. H has never once contacted L for a D. He says he's confused about all of this. But he's constantly out with the guys drinking, playing cards etc. I think if he'd take the time to actually think about things, he'll figure out what he wants. DD is mentally effected by this. Even after 1 year, she's made 2 comments to me in the past 2 days about daddy forgetting he's her daddy since he doesn't call, etc. H was a VERY involved dad and husband. We let our issues get to us and treated eachother poorly instead of leaning on eachother. While he left, we were in the process of bankruptcy and lost our house and car with it. He grew up in a very financially stable home and his parents yelled at him about the bankruptcy. (UGH!). He lives with them the past year and they don't ask him anything....just lets him come and go as he pleases. He's even giving financial support to me less and less. I want our marriage VERY badly and know the past mistakes we've both made are very correctable. My question I guess is, to those that are the WAS, does my outcome look very bleak? I think he's going through a personal crisis since he's even become distant with our DD. What can I do besides LRT? And how does one get into GAL & LRT? Please help in any way you can...I greatly appreciate any input!
And sorry to butt into this thread if I'm not supposed to do this. I'm new here.
