Corri I'm up the end of chapter seven so I feel I can comment a bit on that bit of the booklet. The author does cover allot of the ground about dealing with the self that I was questioning with the book. I do have some issues with the "research has shown" parts of the book and some of the particular model of emotions that is presented at the front of the but the rest of the book is much more flushed out than the validation chapter.
I'm interested in seeing where the author takes it from here, although I found the end to chapter seven about his feelings of suicide a bit bizarre at first. But I appreciate the honesty many authors talking about the value of being happy would gladly eliminate the fact that they have gotten that low because it would make their "program" seem flawed. So I'm interested it reading more of it.
So on to your question.
" So... your wife is completely self-validating right now? "
I could try and weasel out of it by replying "interesting question why do you ask?"
Or directly question the validity of the question, do you really care or are you just trying to prove a point with rhetorical devices?
Maybe I could defensively throw up a bunch of stuff that has nothing to do with the question and instead get all "meta" about the answer.
I could say I never claimed anyone should be completely self-validating or even strive to be.
I may even claim that my wife's inner life isn't mine to disclose publicly.
I could ask how to measure the level of self-validation in someone else.
