Thanks. I'm not new to this board. I've been on it for 3 years. Look up my past thread, see where I was. I was in the infidelity section, then piecing and now here because of the recent blow my husband gave me. I understand this is pro-marriage. My IC is pro-marriage, I'm pro-marriage, I hate the thought of another divorce and have I tried everything? I don't know but what I do know is that my husband has not suggested counseling, he hasn't read any of the self help books, ie Surviving an Affair, After the Affair, Divorce Remedy, etc. I've prayed, I've been in counseling, together with H and alone, still am in IC. Do I still consider my H my best friend - yes. That's why this journy has been so difficult to me. I mourn the loss of my best friend.
Just to ease your mind, if H and I get a divorce, that isn't the end of me. I still have a lot of work to do on me before I would every consider being in another R. I don't trust my judgment and that's a problem.
