My H left me and moved out last Sunday after a few months of already struggling in our R. We are having a Coffe Place/Bar together, which we opened in January this year after only 8 Months of R. We were big time in Love and everyone of us was very much into the R, him and my Daughter (8) got along really well. He was moving in with us afeter one week of R. (single Mom symptom, I hardly got to leave the house nighttimes during the week)
Our Bar is a full success - although we're not earning enough Money with it up to now.
Now we stuck together everyday from morning till nite basically everyday - private and on business. He never reacted to any of my ideas, I started nagging, we started to be really hurtful to each other and to always do "more of the same"..... I got to realize that last weekend - but it was too late. He came home after taking two days off - and told me it's over. He fell in love with ANOTHER WOMAN. (been meeting her since 4 weeks). And that this would be a definite sign for him that he WOULD NOT LOVE ME ANYMORE.
I went mad and all that first. I felt so HURT. But after calming dowmn for a few days, I read Micheles Book again and will be starting to see a SBT-Therapist on Monday.
Today, when I occassionally met him at work, I already felt lots better, coz I started doing a 180. Being friendly, no crying etc. But then his phone rang, and he went outside - which he never does. It was the other woman. I felt it. No doubt. When he came back in, he was pretty nervous. Already before, he had cancelled our Business-date, which we were supposed to have tonite. Said after working on my shifts for the entire week, he needed a break. Now I know he will be seing her tonite.
My Question: How do I act NOW? I can do 180s and all that stuff, changing me and everything. But the Affair is NEW. I can't change anything in that point.
But WHAT can I do? Be friendly? Ask him: how was your nite off, when I see him tomorrow? (and we'll be seing each other basically everyday)
PLEASE HELP Me on that one! All the other points I seem to have already figured out, after reading DB yesterday...
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR IDEAS!!!!! Hope to read from you sooooonest,
