long and painful story.i wouldnt say exactly "lasted". She said she wanted a divorce the day she moved out. She filed for divorce, without telling me, a month later. (I didnt find this out until much much later) It so happened that practically on the day after she filed, I asked her not to file for a year, to give us time to see how things went between us. She agreed to "not serve me with papers" for a year. She broke her word, 6 months in, when I confronted her that she was now dating a new guy online, rather than giving us a chance after she seemed to have broken up with other guy. Her response to the confrontation: outrage, and no she's not seeing anyone officially yet.. but then immediately and silently arranging for me to be served the papers, without warning, at that point. (for those who dont know.. that's when divorce "really" starts. legal things start kicking in then. There is now a "date of separation" on file... however, we are not exactly "legally separated". or, i dont think we are. its a bit vague.)
It's all rather sad. She moved out, becuase of a guy i confronted her about.. who she is no longer dating.(although she still talks to him) She served me divorce papers... because of a guy i confronted her about.. who she is no longer dating.
Divorce stuff is creeping on. Rather than go into the ugly details, i'll just say that she's the one driving it, and while she said she's "keeping her options open" when asked, it seemed like she had her mind made up about getting it finalized this year.
It remains to be seen whether our positive interactions... and our children's wishes... and our 10th anniversary... will have any impact on that.
Last edited by Dom R; 08/31/0706:23 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
