Thanks for that post. I have grown so much in the last three months. The lights are coming "on" after a long time of denial about myself and cluelessness about many things in life, and that, despite the pain of separation, feels good. I am a better person than I was three months ago, no matter what happens to my WAW and me. She's not talked divorce, but she's not yet indicated any desire to reconcile or work together. She's off working on her issues, and I'm working on mine. I remain committed to the marriage, however and will hope (but not naively so) that we can rescript the relationship on better ground.
Despite the pain we all suffer, the universe does find ways to lift us up if we are open to it.
