Yep. The question is... what do they do with that self awareness. Most people use limited self awareness to strengthen their - 'Thats what I want' entitlement- rather then actually assisting there SO up. The funny thing about self aware people is that they are JUST as subject to biology as everyone else. They just rationalize it better. It doesnt matter how well you understand, we are still beholden to it. Understanding it in infintesimal detail, even obtaining mastery of your portion, doesnt make you happy/ier.
It only matters -what you do. If you do 'The right thing' a person can find happiness, from self approval, courage, pride. maybe even serenity, and tranquility. If a person doesnt, you can only hide or try to mask the depression. Karma is a bit#h. But a fair b#tch.
I agree but you are ignoring what I believe to be the biggest problem which is being wise enough to know what the "right thing" to do might be. For instance, I had to think really hard to figure out what the "right thing" to do was when my S18 wanted me to bail him out of a difficulty recently. My reflexive reaction to the phrase "Do the right thing." would be to operate from lioness mode but I wonder if that's always the right thing to do - lol. My reflexive reaction to anything involving my children is to operate from cow mode. However, I know I have the tendency to overdo cow so (SELF-AWARENESS)...Basically my choice boiled down to is he a man or is he my baby boy? Anyway, my response to him started out "I'm broke and you're 6'3" so.." (Bunny /Lioness) Then I sat on the cow for several hours until my son did a couple mature things. Then I cut his hair and made him some food. - lol. It worked out wonderfully and now my son is completely self-supporting and his lifestyle is definitely on the upswing. My point being that there are plenty of people who would have advised me that it was "wrong" to tell my kid that I was broke or that it might be "right" to lend financial support to an 18 year old etc. Clearly there are some things we all know are wrong but there's a lot of white noise and gray mush in our relationships and in our heads and hearts and it's hard to know how best to take care of ourselves and others.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
