Not nearly as encouraging as yours :-)
I dont see any hope of any near-term changes. Just trying to enjoy a better relationship with her right now.
I kept not following standard book advice, and pressuring her to try counselling, try this, try that, any time it looked like things were improving between us. (although I was following an MC's advice for a few months, and he was the one who suggested that stuff).
Going to stop doing that now, i think, and just see how our relationship goes day by day.

We've known each other for 15(?) years, married for 10. Separated since june 2006, so 1yr3mons. Wife had given up on our marriage 6 years ago (about when children were born), been messing around with other people online for 3. moved out when I confronted her that she had been saying "i love you" to person she claimed was "just good friends".
(but she "wasnt moving out because of him", noooo....)
(second time this happened; with prior guy she backed down, probably because that one was ludicrous. this one was just slightly ludicrous)

We had other problems. but it seems clear that this was why she actually moved out. One of her stated reasons, because she wouldnt have me "controlling her" any more. [ie: not letting her date other people?]

She's been through something like 3 other online "interests" since then. Still talks to most of them.
Meanwhile, she's living in her mother's newly remodeled and expanded house, with our children 50% of the time.
Her mother hates me, thinks everything her daughter did is justified, everything *I* did is wrong, and I have nothing to complain about,because she "never had sex with anyone".

When asked by me, she "cant" move back together because "there's no trust".

Umm.....

So anyways... talking with her about it, "isnt working".
So, I'm trying to "stop doing what isnt working".

Last edited by Dom R; 08/31/07 05:16 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle