Trying to get WAW back

[DaveJ]

Ok so this morning the W initiated talk on R. One thing led to another, I asked a probing question (which I probably shouldn't have but....). I said, "sweetie, honestly, do you really want me back?" I was expecting something like "oh I need to figure everything out, I don't know....". It surprised me when she said that she does want me back but at a different point in our lives. She wants the S for us to both sort things out and work on ourselves. She wants to get to a point where she is able to deal with working on the M. I'm going to chalk that one up as a positive sign and be encouraged to work on myself during our S.

I do wonder if what I mentioned to her about my officemate's divorce has hit home a little. I told her that he is still constantly struggling and in pain even after 2 years. Basically his W left him for another man and moved out of state. So essentially he has closure from that aspect and they have no kids. I said that it will just be 100x worse because we love and care for each other deeply and we have two kids that bonds us forever. We will always have an open wound that never heals between us if we get a divorce. I do not want to wonder about "what if" for the rest of my life if we have a chance to make this marriage work and give the kids a happy family that's together.