How much contact? What type?

[HBT]

Bruce,
Thank you so much for responding, I am grateful. I've been lost since he left and yes I do believe MLC is in the picture but he would deny it. I will fill you in if you will listen; but coincidently I'm off to my 1st C appt with a christian marriage counselor who also deals with step family issues-just wish h & I had done this a LONG time ago together. He refuses to go now even after he promised he would. I think he's trying to convince himself it is over now. I have posted on the MLC board, it is pretty pathetic I warn you, but please feel free to read up. I do value the input even though up til now it hasn't sunk in! I am trying, but having a hard time putting one foot in front of the other. I think I've lost myself somehow as I used to be very independent and self sufficient. There are so many dynamics which I don't have time to get into now, so I will check in later. Thanks again!