Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[SueS]

Just got some bad news. I emailed my SIL to send her a picture of our D3. I asked her to please try to come up to see us with my BIL in November. I miss her and want to see them. She emailed back telling me that she's sorry, but she and my BIL have decided to divorce. I almost went into full blown hysterics. They've always had a very, very volatile relationship. They are a few years older than us, she got pregnant when they were dating. They moved in together, had a baby....etc., but never really had a chance to be a real married couple. She also had an older son from a previous M. She asked me not to say anything to my H and pretend that I don't know. I know that my H and my BIL have talked almost every night for the past week or so. She wasn't sure if my BIL had told my H yet. I hope he has. If he hasn't & my H finds out soon, I'm just afraid that my BIL's D will somehow justify my H's behavior or push him a little further away from me. Sounds incredibly selfish for me to be thinking of me during her time of hurt (although she says it's a relief), but it's plain and simple reality. My H has always know that their relationship has been rocky & that they've talked about D alot in the past, so I'm hoping that he doesn't somehow figure this action into his own feelings.

In a HUGE way, I really wish I didn't know. When you know something, it's hard as hell to act like you don't or to not let your actions show that something's different.

I'll miss my SIL a lot, but I guess I need to be even more focused now on me and my own R.

Man, this could really, really throw a curve ball into our life.

Just one positive thing. My BIL & I have a great relationship. We get along and my BIL has always told my H that he doesn't ever want to see him hurt me. He told my H that he needs to stop and realize what a good thing he has.

HHHEEELLLLPPPP!!