I also think that most women do NOT understand this.
Well... maybe because, one, you invalidate her, and two, you don't explain what you want/need from the conversation. So before you begin, you could:
1) I'm venting, I don't really want your opinions or feedback or suggestions. I'd just like you to listen.
2) I'm going to tell you how day went. I'd like your opinion on x, y, or z.
You can add other parameters as needed. If you define the parameters for her, it will help her give you what you want/need.
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My wife talks incessantly to anyone who will listen about all the crap at her school.
She's starved for meaningful connection, and will get it wherever/whenever she can... even if it is 'crap' connection.
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I will listen for a while, but honestly it’s like a bottomless pit and a one way conversation. She does not want to hear my opinions or advice, so there is little more I can do but listen to something that is boring to me and frustrating too.
No, she doesn't want your opinion. She wants the validation of your active listening. If nothing else, give her a time limit... and tell her that it is hard for you to 'actively listen' for more than 15 minutes... but you'd be willing to do it for 15 minutes each day. Or whatever it is you think you can honestly do for her.
