I generally practice not talking about my work too much either. I will discuss it at times, mention neutral topics or the like, but I have always understood that men should leave the office at the office. Bringing it home opens up too much possibility to drag in all the negative crap that can occur. Then after a while the wife can feel like she is only there as a punching bag or something. At some point the feeling of validation and being included starts to wear off for her and changes to feeling like she is an emotional dumping ground (she gets enough of this from the kids). I think a lot of men understand this dynamic and therefore try to keep the office at the office.
Wow. You did a lot of assuming, and took all her ability to choose away from her. THIS is invalidating.
