Trust/Safety are the Ying and Yang of a marriage. Sex has NOTHING to do with this, but it is one of the first things that will suffer if you BOTH start ripping apart your Trust-Safety Nest... because you can't have MEANINGFUL sex without it!!!"
I can't agree with this more. After getting hit with the A-bomb in my first marriage, my trust in anyone was a hard thing to come by. I realize now that her affair was a blessing. It opened up a whole new opportunity for me that basically was be snuffed by her thinking that she was the Queen of the C.U. chair as some of you have put it.
I've since moved on and found a much happier place, but trust is still an issue. I better at it, but I still find myself with doubts at times and it really plays havoc on our relationship. 7 years later and I'm still feeling the effects of my ex ! It starts that spiralling loop, my lack of trust leads to her withdrawing, which intensifies our lack of intimacy, which leads me to more doubts and on and on and.......
I'm trying and having some success in trying to break the loop. I see the where and the what I need to be, just need to better figure out the how.
Gary
P.S. - Corri, the Aveeno bath seems to help - thanks _____________________________________________________________
"If you can't lick em, lick em" - Ted Nugent "D'ooh!!" - Homer Simpson
