How much contact? What type?

[a new 2moro]

what ST said is brilliant ...i can say yes to everything. my diference is whe so many LBS can say they lost themselves in the M....or it became about the kids....me it was I was too selfish i did not give enuff to my H. it was all about me. I saw my friends did stuff with my horses....now ima dif person. we spend time as a couple...we see his friends together. I make him meals. I dont fly off the handle at the slightest thing from H.....and while it sounds like its too one sided now, it will balance out with the two of us. That was my change. H saw me as a dif person from afar. that gave him the safety to come closer and eventually come home.