Your wife is a social worker whose opinion would be weighed heavily by a judge in her jurisdiction. If she were reporting to the court about a situation such as the one she has placed her children in, what do you think she would say about that mother?
It is time for her to have a reality check.
NOW.
And if you don't step up and put a stop to this, you might as well be dropping the men off there every night and driving away.
