Hope all is well. You didn't do an awful thing, just let a little anger slip. Plus, there was a positive in that your H recommended counselling -- maybe it's beginning to dawn on him that what he's doing isn't totally OK. Regardless of his reasoning, not a bad idea.
Hang in there.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY