1. Talk to lawyer right away. In many cases you can legally prevent the kids from any overnights in a place with OM. Especially if there's a string of them.
2. What's the situation? How do you share custody now?
3. I think you need to end this behavior right now. I think a talk with her is in order. I also think she'll give you the finger. If she's so far gone as to expose your kids to a string of other men, she won't listen to you.
4. How can I say this nicely? You wife is being the village pin-cushion and modeling this behavior for your kids. A friend of mine once had this happen to him over 20 years ago. His ex wife is on her fourth marriage and each of his two daughters were so damaged by her exposing them her lovers that they are each on their third marriages. Both of his daughters got married three times!
5. I know your fear of upsetting your wife and tipping the apple cart is making you hestiate. But, it seems, at this point, when she's already threatening divorce, you need to protect you children.
