You have never given me any reason to believe you would deliberately manipulate. Just be aware that you can go unwittingly down that path. If the C were to call your H and ask, he would think you pushed it.
One counselor i went to said to me that if you want to know what they are thinking, ask and if you want them to do something, ask. It is the only way to get a real answer. (And I recognize that you may not always be truthfully told what they are thinking.)
