vacation is over, I am leaving

[limbo]

Thanks Stew!! Sometimes it takes someone else to point out the good, as you get bogged down with the negative!

Now, last night we talked, what brought this on is that we are having major problems with S7, he is getting very pyshical with other kids, and its to the point that the camp he was going to has asked that he not come today! So we are very worried, and have actually been in touch with an old counsellor of ours that specilizes in kids.
So basically what I told H is that this is no longer a game that we can keep playing, that we have to stop thinking only of ourselves and focus back on our kids! I will be the first to admit that because of what has been going on, I have not focused on them like I should have, and this has obviously become a problem.
I said that if he is not prepared to commit to us 100% then there is no point in carry on, that in 6 months he can't turn around and say he has been drawn back to ow. The kids need stability and our focus, and if he is not prepared to do that, then I am on my own.
He said that he hasn't really realized what damage he has done????!!!! Of course he was going back into feeling sorry for himself!
I said he has to forgive himself, move on from the guilt if he does hope to stay and build a strong family, that not all the blame and guilt is his, that it took the 2 of us to break the marriage and it will take the 2 of us to build it.
He agreed that what was said was right, he did want his family together and happy, so we shall see.
The reason I did this, is because I just can not allow this to continue the way it is, I wount let me kids suffer anymore, and if it means he has to leave to get my kids back on track then I will do it!