Its been a long time since i posted an update to my situation, and a lot has happened - some good, some bad.


So my wife filed for legal seperation. We worked with the lawyers and put together a fair agreement.

In the meantime, i did a lot of GAL, and started hanging out with some friends a lot of which were women. (no dating, just friends).

About 2 weeks ago, my wife starts showing signs of wanting to work on us. She comes down to my room, and we talk and end up making love. This was a little weird, and we both agreed that it was probably rushed.

3 days later she comes home from a girl friends crying, and says she is so confused, and misses me, we talk some, and we make love again, this time its not weird, and I can tell she wants to be with me.

next day, she is a little weird, and pulls away again.

that night, we make love again.

next day, she pulls away again.

2 days later, she texts me and asks if I want to go out somewhere that evening. I joke with her, and we end up going out and having a really nice time, and again make love for hours.

next day she pulls away again. That evening i get frustrated and walk out of the house and go to a bar late at night and get some beers. While i'm there she texts me saying - she is ready to let the OM go, and wants to work on us, and that she is dead serious.

I come home, and she is a little distant, which is weird, but i'm a little toasty, so my decision making skills are weak. We make love again. Next morning the OM calls her, and she talks to him.

Here is where i am lost...

She doesn't tell him its over, she does however admit she has been thinking about working on me and her, and that we have had sex. She tells me about this, and that he told her he doesn't want to see her again. Although it sounds from her story that she told him that she is really confused, and doesn't know what she wants.

Because she tells me the same thing. She is really confused and that she hurts because letting him go hurt so bad she is confused about what she wants.

Next day was pained.

And today - the movers were scheduled to come, so they came and moved her stuff to the rental house. My girls are over there now sleeping for the first night. I tried to keep my composure, and make it as positive as possible for the girls, and since they are so small they are kind of 'excited' about sleeping at the new house. Although i can tell they don't really understand what it means, I think they see it like a vacation. I'm curious to see how they handle it as time goes on.

It was really hard to watch the pictures come off the walls, and to see the house empty. I reacted fairly pitufully, and she saw how much i hurt. I was able to hide it from my kids though. Now that they are gone, I'm having a beer and just trying to keep myself busy tonight.

I'll admit i've probably put to much pressure on my wife to make a decision after all of the positives, and that we should really give it a shot to work on things.

She has said at times: I miss you, i like spending time with you, it feels so good to be with you (sexually), she even said she loves me more now than she has in years. But.. she still moved out, and she is in serious confusion, pull back mode right now. 'losing' the OM has got her confused again, and she is not sure if she really wants to be with me, or her jealousy about me being with other girls is causing her to miss me.

I told her, i don't think that jealousy causes you to have feelings for someone, and that feelings for someone would cause jealousy. Also she has no right to be jealous, as she knows how i feel.

Anyways, i'm lost. I'm not sure what to do next. I think i'm just going to take a step back, and let her figure things out..