Oh, at the end of the school day today, I sat and talked with a friend there that I admire. She told me how she D'd her H after 28 years of M, which she put up with him married to his job (6--7 days a week, 6am--10pm) and was emotionally abusive. I never would have thought that about her--she is so strong and happy, now.
She had thought about it for 10 years (!), but wanted to see her 3 kids through college, and he was vindictive to hurt her the only way he could--through the kids. Then, 2 events happened. Her grandmother passed away, and all anyone talked about was how she was married for 70 years. She couldn't imagine another 42 with her H! And then, he told her son that if she ever left, it would cut her income by 2/3. It made her feel like he saw her as a whore--only staying for the $$. But she said it was all about the kids. So, she left. She even offered a temp sep if he went to counseling. He asked if she could guarentee that they would get back together. She said no, so he said no.
Anyway, I am surprised at how many women are so open to sharing their stories with me when I mention what I am going through. It's as if they have all been placed in my path, at the right moment, on purpose.
I told her about my sitch, and then it was time to go. She hugged me for a long time, telling me that I will soon come to realize and take to heart that I deserve so much better, that I am worth more than what he could possibly give in the present moment.
