he'll have forgotten everything that happened. He generally has a poor memory for anything that isn't numerical or scientific.
I got one of those men too!!!
Maybe you should be straight with him and say that you realise he may find it difficult to go through now but you have a list of questions - which you will give to him - and you would appreciate if he could try jotting something down whilst it was still fresh in his memory, so that when he did feel safe to give it to you he could do so.(If he so wanted).
My husband found at times that it was easier to email me answers to questions so that I would have had time to think about a response before I saw him. There are times when he and I act better for seeing things written down in black and white. I think when we read it back it gives us a chance to consider not only content, but tone. Does that make sense?
It's all just so personal, what works and what doesn't. I guess I am just trying to throw a few ideas into the mix.
to lighten your day I will tell you something stupid I did regarding emails the other day. When on myspace I imported my contact list and accidentally sent an invite to nearly everyone in it asking them to be my friend. I only went and sent one to my H's OW as I had emailed her some time ago when things were heated - oops!! LOL
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
