But there was nothing #3

[SallyM]

mk, you have a whole lot more going on, though, from what I read in your posts. and that doesn't make you a bad mom, it makes you a good one...is he hostile to the kids? if h was, I wouldn't want him around them much, either. my h, for the most part, is still good with the kids. I think his patience is tested from time to time, sounds like he snaps at them more than normal, since he's at his moms and doesn't have me for a buffer. the thing is they adore him, and when I observe them all together, he's still the good dad he's always been. in fact, I'm the only person he's different with, as far as I can see. he's still his normal fun self to everyone...he saves all his anger/jerkiness for me. ah, so fun to be singled out so.