Bruce, If you don't want a divorce then don't do anything towards getting one. You are doing a really good thing by giving her the space that she is asking for. this is a great opportunity for you to learn patience. Showing that you respect her wishes right now will go further than just about anything else with her. I realize that 3 months seems like an eternity right now but it really is a short time.
How old is your wife?
Have you considered that your W is just going through a Midlife Transition. It sounds to me like she is evaluating her life and trying to figure out who she is and what she really wants. this is actually a good thing something that we all need to go through. Kind of like adolescence all over again. It becomes a crisis when the person avoids looking at their life and starts running away from it by using alcohol, sex, drugs, spending lots of money, having an affair, etc. From what I read here it doesn't sound like she is doing those things she is just wanting space to be able to work through this time of transition.
I really wouldn't worry about a divorce unless you really want one or she starts proceedings herself.
You are doing great. Just keep working on the patience. If she is receptive to the gifts than keep on giving them.
ST
At the bar the Judge will not look us over for medals, degrees, or diplomas, but for scars. - Hugh B. Brown
