I would have to agree with you on the borderline abusive issue. Especially if he used any degrading language in the process of controlling/manipulating you. If this is the case, then yeah it was definitely verbal and emotional abuse. The question that bothers me the most about my sitch is not why is he so screwed up that he could treat me this way, but rather why am I screwed up enough to ever allowed it when I am so independent in every other faucet of my life.
Atlas,
Originally Posted By: Atlas
If you can make him feel more secure about the R, even verbally explaining that this behavior bothers me and it's what makes me want to leave. Just a thought.
What drives me absolutely nuts, is for me to tell my H my intentions (ie I'm not completely done, I need space, here are my plans towards figuring out what I want to do), and then he grills me over and over and over about what my plans are!!! The verbal reassurance is getting me nowhere except more questioning which really, really irritates me and makes me want to have NO communication at all. So if any of you guys are doing this DON'T!!!
