Retrouvaille vs Counseling

[25yearsmlc]

Well now CY, you have ticked me off. I have posted here for over a year and post a great deal encouraging the many good men here. CY, I have posted to you well over a year now, when your screename was different, etc. (Sara, again, sorry for the hijack) and I have listened to your complaints, along with verycrazy and very few others, for some time. You are stuck. Plain and simple. Doesn't make you all wrong. Nor did I EVER say that. On the contrary, I've said you put up with too much for too long, among other things.

But you aren't actually doing anything to change your sitch. Yes yes you have put it "in God's hands", which you did many months ago. But as I said then, are you sure God does not want you to DO anything else? If you are sure that sitting back and letting things go is the way, ---and it might be!!--then how about just doing that?
Let go of her transgressions, or at least stop reciting them b/c it sounds like you have not let go of them if you're still discussing them, even when events are literally years old, and by your words NOW, you are no longer at fault at all for TODAY'S M. Is that accurate?

As for me taking sides with your wife -- you must have amnesia--and worse, because she is female....well, umm, you are flat out wrong and groping for a reason to discredit someone who disagrees with your approach or questions it.

Ask Faithisbelieving, FaithfulH, Emotionalrollercoaster, Was2Sad and a dozen other men on this board how "unfair" I am to men. Then take some time to realize you have oversimplified and inaccurately portrayed my view. Seems to me that when I disagree with you, you distort my words to make me sound extreme. But you are inaccurate and counter-productive. Plus, I never said this was all your fault. You sound silly when you talk like that. Where'd you even come up with that?

I hope your sitch changes. I really do. But I also think life is about making some hard and brave choices. I'm up here in Alaska so I know what I'm talking about. Either let go of your M, or do something for it. That is what I am suggesting. I could be wrong and hey, I'm human. But don't give me the "she takes the female side" poop simply b/c I disagree with your approach. We're above that type of ad homonym attack. This board is all about opinions and I gave mine. Don't attack my motives and then forget the hours and hours I've spent posting to you to encourage you when you were feeling really low. I think you run away from those who challenge you to take the lead in your life.

Like I said before CY, if your life is a novel, who is writing Yours? Do you like where it's going? Is your approach to conflict resolution working well for you?
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