I like that plan of attack OT

Setting out some definite guidelines for BOTH of us will establish what needs to be done. But, like you said, *I* have to stick with what I say, and not back down, as difficult as it might be

I was talking to my best friend today (she lives 3,000 miles from me and is the ONLY one that knows about our situation) and she told me she is concerned about me because sometimes I can be "too strong" for my own good. But, I truly feel that this time it is different. I knew I had to get to "this" place before I could take the next step and I now know staying in the situation I am in now would be much worse than trying to get over the pain of losing him.

H met me for lunch today and said he'd phoned about another job (pays not as much per hour but it is full time) and I said "it would be pretty hard for you to beat what you already have (which is only 3 days a week) but he said "ya, but I might need to make extra money down the road".

This is something that is weighing heavy on him too because I would be fine, I make more than he does but he has more financial commitments than I do. We talked briefly about those things and I ended it because it was getting way too emotional and is not necessary to talk about at this point.


Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)