All signs indicate she is deep in the REPLAY stage of MLC. I have been DBing to the best of my ability and trying to detach from her, thanks to the Michelle's books and all the excellent words of wisdom I get from you guys in this forum. I am seeking marital therapy for myself and legal counsel as well, since my W has threatened with D in the last week.
Here is one thing I am struggling with. My wife has been exposing my 2 daughters to her OM at her apartment. It has not been one, but multiple of them over the last few weeks. I know my DDs are already heart broken about our separation and the little one is not particularly coping well with this issue of mommy being so close to OM when they are around. At the beginning it didn't bother me much, but I think its high time I set some boundaries with my W regarding this issue. I would love to hear from you all veterans on how best to handle it. On one hand, I am ready to talk to her in a quiet and confident way to stop having her SO in front of the kids. On the other hand, I do not want to make her mad thats light a fire under her to start the D process, which I want to delay as much as possible. I still believe in the sanctity of my M, I know we both made mistakes in our R, but I want to do whatever it takes to work on our M so that we can reconcile, even if that means forgiving her for all the destructive habits.
Please throw me some nuggets...
Me 41, ring on W 36, ring off married 13 yrs Separated D9, D5 bomb May, 07 My sitch
