So, IF it is comfortable for me, I need to continue on with regular marriage activities, affection etc.?
IMO, if this is the path you want, Plan A, then acting as if you are going with Plan B might be self defeating, don't you think? In a situation as unstable as yours, I would not walk too closely to the line, but give a little margin for error, assuming it is comfortable for you. That's just my take on it though.
