You'll just have to disagree with me. Once you are emotionally D, as even many LBSs will get to be before a legal D, you really aren't lingering in limboland. Yes, a legal D at that point is a practical matter with consequences that need to be addressed. But, like filing taxes, it can reasonably be postponed.
FWIW, if the WAS hasn't done the work to be emotionally D, then we're talking about something completely different.
The cases I am thinking of are those in which the WAS really has extracted him/herself from the M. The financial matters are separated, the child visition stuff addressed, the households separated, and so on.
If those things aren't done, then THOSE are markers of stuff maybe, but that is what to look at. Look at whether or not the WAS is emotionally D, not the D paperwork.
