Thank you so very much for supporting me on this. It meant alot to me, more then you know. 25years has had some good advice to me in the past which I acknowleged. However, she appears to believe that everything is my fault. Maybe its because she is a woman and will not agree with anything a man says on this topic.
My wife came from a family who believes themselves Self-Righteous in all their actions. Her family is well educated but have no common sense or wisdom. Wisdom comes from the Holy Spirit as Catholics believe. My MIL has a masters in English and grandfather made himself into a millionare. He is a controlling man too.
This past March, my SIL (wife's sister, she has two sisters) stated that her and her husband (husband wasn't there as he was working at the hospital, he is an ER nurse) were having a conversation about the English language and what she repeated has stuck with me. During lunch at the table, She said
"PEOPLE WHO DO NOT HAVE COMMAND OF THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE, WHEN THEY SPEAK, THEY MAKE THEMSELVES LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT AND THAT IS THE RESPECT THEY DESRVE."
The entire family nodded in agreement. I made no face and gave no answer but was shocked and horrified to say the least. My parents are not educated, but I would never consider to treat them like an Idiot. I don't want to judge them, lest you be judged, but I can judge the action and its terrible to think the way they do. I believe anyone is deserving of respect, no matter who they are. The cleaning people wear I work have a below average IQ. But they come around and are friendly. I would never consider to treat them like an Idiot.
When I die, I don't believe God will judge me on my grammar, rather my actions and behavior or things I failed to to. I would like to know what will happen if they appear before God, and God tells them about this comment and says, "Did you say this?" They will not be able to deny it, but knowing how they behave as I have seen over the years, they will probably try to correct God's grammar too.
Since my daughter was present, I made sure to talk to her that night before putting her bed. I told her "No matter what a person looks like, tall or short, thin or heavy, black or white, smart or not educated, you need to treat everyone with Christian Charity as Jesus would want you to. Do you understand? She said yes daddy. Sara, now 25years will assume I told her this in an aburpt or strong tone. I told my daughter in a calm and loving way.
