Right - I need to continue on like I am "married" but these "triggers" have been laid out to him on many other occasions. Although I do say he seems to be VERY concerned this time around

He even said "I don't know why I allowed it to get to this point but sometimes you have to hit the bottom before you can come back up" - he knows he is at the bottom and there might not be a way back up.

He knows this is all up to him, I have removed myself of the responsibility totally. He asked me what I wanted to do and I said, "no, this is YOUR choice, YOU are the one that will decide the destiny of our M by your actions"

So, IF it is comfortable for me, I need to continue on with regular marriage activities, affection etc.?

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)