Boy, people really do want the paperwork to *mean something big*, huh?
Look, I haven't filed my taxes on time for the last two years. I had to file extensions. Why? Because I had more important priorities in my life and it wasn't going to hurt me to put off addressing my tax returns. I wanted my tax returns done, it just made more sense to put them off.
D paperwork is a lot like a tax return to very many WASs. Other priorities are more pressing and attractive, D business is tedious, stressful, and takes funds and energy that could be applied to other priorities.
This does not make WASs in denial, lost in a fog, ready to run home, immature, or directionless. (This is not to say that many WASs aren't some of these things. Rather, the D-paperwork is not the big marker of such things that people would like it to be.)
Of course, at some point in handling the D, most will feel some sadness. They are not inhuman or evil. But fear/avoidance of that sadness is not driving the WASs idleness. In most cases, they don't even really expect it and are taken by surprise at their feelings if they occur. (No, this does not mean that they will think they were wrong, it just means that they will recognize that ending the M legally has more of an emotional impact than they anticipate.)
IMP--yes probably asking people who are WASs about this would yield better answers, but I don't think it is a problem, really, to ask about it here.
The question is motive. Motive probably has to do with wanting to hear that it means something that in all liklihood it doesn't. That is, the motive is to get some cheerleading either for the chances of the M or for the LBSs greater rightness, maturity, and so on...
have to ask how you know this with certainty?
not saying you're wrong just saying tha unless you are/were a WAS no one can really know why they don't go ahead and file.
could be any number of reasons from the ones you say here to confusion like so many want to believe to lack of money to fear of lawyers. heck i have no clue.
i agree wiyh imp that this question would be better answered by a WAS
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