EXCELLENT book! In fact a great resource for any parent who is going throuh divorce to help you realize how it may affect your children and possibly minimize the damage. And also, I thought it was very good for adult children of divorce. I know it helped me see some things in myself that I didn't realize or connect the dots to. It explained some of my own behaviors, thoughts and reactions in relationships and family dynamics.
Mkultra, I'm sure you are not a bad mom. And with all the stress and tension in these situations the disconnection can be a relief. Hopefully it will only be temporary and they can eventually reconnect and have a strong and loving relationship.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.