One more thing, if I were in your shoes I would calmly let my spouse know I'm aware of the OP. Affairs thrive in secrecy and sometimes once the secret is out the relationship deflates. Don't throw out blame or anger. Just be matter of fact.
I agree with Root. No blame but if you let them know you know it does release a little of the tension The good husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
