Ok, so here is where I am having problems dealing with what I should and shouldn't do.

H has "vowed" not to continue on with his inappropriate behaviours (BTDT - so it's all talk to me) HOWEVER, he finally realizes this is the turning point, there is no going back - so that is a BIG step. But, is it too little too late?

He goes to see the new T on Sep 21st but that is another 3 weeks from now - what do I do in the meantime? Do I refrain from any sort of affection whatsoever and if so, what does that prove. If he makes advances of any kind (i.e. a hug/peck on the cheek) do I only "allow" it IF I want to accept/reciprocate? or do I avoid all physical/emotional contact

IF I saw that he was making a REAL effort to turn things around in the next month or two, I would consider reconciliation but it is highly unlikely right now - burned too many times.

How do I determine what to do and not do?? any suggestions oh wise ones?

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)