Try not to be depressed over things as they are now. I know that Retrouvaille is not a magic pill to be taken and then the marriage is fixed, but I can't explain the turn around that happened for me at that weekend. I think you will be successful there for 2 reasons. One, your H is open and willing to make changes to improve the marriage; and two, you are bright and articulate, expressing yourself well in writing. Since you communicate through letters (and talking, but the crux is the letters), the ability to put thoughts and feelings on paper is a plus. Don't worry about confrontation. Retrouvaille is not confrontational. I can't explain very well what it is, because it is a combination of the presentations, the questions, the quiet thoughtful surroundings, the letters, and the closeness with the spouse, that all come together to create the Retrouvaille experience.
So until then, do what you are doing. Be nice to each other, avoid confrontation if possible, say thank you, ask for what you want if you need help, and try not to think bad thoughts about the other person. You will make this better. You just have to get there and learn what to do.
