The asking out of courtesy, I do that. It used to infuriate W and would make things worse. When I just started telling and not asking it got better sometimes but then it seemed it depended on the activity I was asking about.
It sucks because I truly believe out of courtesy to each other you should be asking, but when they are that controlling asking is just an open door for them to control the situation. I think it creates a situation where they have the control creating a powershift and that leads to an imbalance in equality. Then you know how you feel after that, sorry to hear. At least you recognize it and can show or tell him.
