I agree, but her deflections do not hit my buttons. What gets me angry are her bully/control/ultimatum tactics.
Okay... then that is something you CAN focus on, within you... and manage... if not for anyone's sake but your own. I'm sure you don't really like feeling angry.
And if you can manage your emotions when she does that stuff...
Okay. We're in the same ballpark. We may even be real close to being on the same base.
