It is a shame that CY is stuck in a unhappy marriage, particularly one where the in-laws feel comfortable ganging up on him. He is willing to go to Retrouvaille and work on the marriage. As I see it, CY is willing to make changes. Has tried to make changes, but is doing it in a vacuum. W will not participate in the process to let him know exactly what changes she wants to see, and how she will adapt too. I don't think he should be criticized here on the board for opening up to us and trusting us with the inner workings of his marriage. Truth is, one person cannot simply do it alone. That is why Retrouvaille and Marriage Encounter require voluntary participation by both spouses. I am praying that his wife will see that their marriage could be improved by spending one weekend talking about it, and will go to Retrouvaille with him. It isn't a big time investment to improve the quality of her life.
