WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing -3

[waw1978]

Flip

I just want to add that I would be thrilled if my H would p
ick up the book, read it and join this support site. There are so many other LBS on here with similarities to my H maybe it would help him learn about himself and how to change his behaviors.

I am learning more and more about myself and what my role in the breadkdown of our M was. Certainly wasn't all his fault. I let him get away with unacceptable behaviors...for years.

Geez, it took my leaving just to get him to go to MC...after years of begging for it.

Sure I don't believe that he "gets it" Only time will tell. In the meantime I come here to find out what the LBS might be thinking and to try and better relate to him even though I too and struggling and in pain. The worst part is knowing that I am not strong enough to fight off his controlling tendencies. I know that if we reconcilled now I would continue to let him bully me. So until I do the work I need to do, then we can't be together.

I never wanted to be separated at 29 and facing the possibility of divorce.

Maybe by reading my posts he would figure out just how much a WAS hurts too.