MJ- If you want to challenge yourself maybe wear some smoking hot lingerie under something totally dull and don't tell him.
Cemar- You know that part in Deidas book about young girls giving you energy what your talking about is just that. There is a level of eros in all of creation, boy ducks and girl ducks are drawn together somehow even praying mantis are drawn together even if it may be death for one of them.
I am constantly amazed at my ability to see an attractive woman from blocks away before I can make out any details of her, I will have a sense of there being something about her. This level of eros used to feel like a burden and I was actually ashamed of it , now I try and see it as just a little something that makes me happy and a feeling I appreciate.
I can see how you would feel that desire isn't a choice but it maybe how you relate to the desire that is that is the choice. Really listen to what the women here are saying they are speaking about their experience as subjects of their own desires and not as objects.
This is what your really after your wife to be subject of her own desire.
And since this is MJs thread I'll ask a question for both of us to her.
