WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing -3

[Nomopo]

Flip - thanks, I think. Tickle you how?

BTW, I would love any feedback/input you have for me on my thread, so please please please chime in.

And I am very sorry to find out you are not my W. (But just in case, I LOVE YOU DEARLY SWEETIE!!!! REALLY!!)

I have owned up to my part. I allowed myself to be treated that way. It's just as much my fault.

Good start, but I suspect there is more. As you two grew apart, what did you contribute to that? I don't care who started it, did you also withdraw and help the two of you become more distant over the years? What else? Spend some time thinking on it. It will serve you well in your next R, with H or otherwise.

I do occasionally think that maybe he has good intentions, but I've been hurt for so long that I'm not ready to jump back in.

That's fine. Take your time. I believe this time and space thing is huge. And I also believe most LBS are happy to wait, especially if they have a little positive feedback that you just need time and space, and maybe a lot of it, to heal. So think about communicating that to him.

He may not have it all figured out, but I suspect he wants to save the M and do right by you and your family for very good reasons. Almost everyone I have met on here does. It's not an easy road back for anyone involved, but I believe it is a road very worth traveling (despite some additional pain). I hope for the very best for you, your H and your family.

Hugs,
Nomo

PS - if you start a thread, please please please let me know.