At the drop this morning I got that smile I have come all too familiar with from W. It was the attention getting, hey I appreciate you and like you smile. It was so nice, I nearly melted, sang the whole way to work after that. She also said I was too kind when I showed up with coffee for FIL and her. Compliment and smile, it's amazing how the little things can make the world spin.
Nice. Just reinforcing something you know -- don't let her just suck you back in. Make her work for it to show she's serious. Keep up the detaching and being nice and all that.
She going to Retrouvaille with you? I wouldn't pin the whole "D or not to D" decision on the outcome of the weekend. It's a step, not the final destination.
Just my 1 penny's worth today.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
I haven't talked about Retrouvaille with her, yet! Tried before and it was accepted and then turned down, when this first started, but I think we are farther along now. I'm not to sure of my tactic, of offering the weekend and in exchange if there is no change of heart I'll give her the D on the terms she wants. But she won't talk about the D for almost 2 weeks again, so why bring it up if I don't have to. She wants to talk Saturday, so I guess I hear what she has to say. I can always pull out my proposal if she wants out. If she wants to work on things, I can offer it as a tool we can try.
Heya Atlas.... dont know as if I would put the retrouvaille thing out there as an ultimatum. More like a kindly suggestion. I may have misinturpted you previous, but it did kinda sound like .... either you go to this, or its done!
Keep doing what you are doing, it seems to be gaining you ground. Take care of you. Have a nice labor day weekend. Think of me too, I will be the poor basterd Laboring this weekend!! LOL
I'm done with ultimatum's, was never any good at them anyway. I was going to do a proposal, I'll give you this in the D if that is what you still want if you go. Not the reverse of I'll fight like hell if you don't go, I can't do that anymore. Too tired to. I seriously need 3 days in Mexico on a deserted beach with endless beer, nothing else.
I seriously need 3 days in Mexico on a deserted beach with endless beer, nothing else.
Man, I wanna go too.
Me:38 W: 35 Married 11 years 2 daughters ages 7 and 3 D filed by her [url]http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1143353&page=2#Post1143353[/url]
Hey......just like the Corona commericals?? I wanna go too. Puerto Vallerta here we come!!! And remember what happens in Mexico stays in Mexico.....er or is that Vegas? I know if I went to Mexico right now, there would be some senoritas involved sooner or later.....lol
Hey A I would just hear her out vs. suggesting Routerville, just my gut reaction though. DO NOT get sucked in by her, be calm and cool and slow and steady, that is what is probably drawing her to you right now. I have personally seen this before. Food for thought.
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
