My example of treating emotions as guest while light hearted did have a large helping of usefulness as a way to deal with emotions. It's not always easy to do this in real time but it has helped me in particular with the emotions of shame and anger. It can help just to let them be without having the emotions take over. Sometimes it can be "hey there sexual desire" its an extenuation of noticing what emotions come up. In a strange way it can let me experience the emotion more, I can feel it and breath it in without it running the show completely. This has allot to do more with my digging around and trying to find my own buttons. YMMV
